Parents should be consultants, not managers

Dr. William Stixrud, author of The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives, recommends that parents be their kids’ consultants, not their managers. And in this 50-minute interview, well worth the listen, he shares some great advice including: • Why giving kids more sense of control sets […]

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Counselors always find a way

It’s hard for me to think of a more consistently vocal champion for high school counselors than Patrick O’Connor. That’s why I always enjoy when he pens a post advising his fellow professionals in the field. Patrick treats counseling like an art and counselors as the artists deserving of respect, attention, and support. Every counselor […]

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You control your returns

Some students, especially those fixated on highly selective colleges, approach high school framing every decision around the question, “What would my dream college(s) like?” Learning more about schools that interest you, ensuring you take the required standardized tests, submitting a completed application on time–that’s just smart college planning. But choosing your activities or your interests […]

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Our praise and their pride

Praise is a powerful instrument, especially when delivered from parents to their kids. Although some teens may go to great lengths to appear otherwise, they thrive on parent approval. Parental praise has byproducts, as teens are likely to seek out opportunities to repeat the praiseworthy behavior. There’s no itemized list of good and bad praises, and […]

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Purported productivity

I came across an article yesterday—and I’m purposely not sharing the link here—about “microscheduling.” The latest in a never-ending series of purported productivity hacks that actually just help you add even more hours—and more work—to an already full day, microschedulers plan every hour, and in many cases, every minute of their day, from their meals […]

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How do you show up?

When you arrive at school, at your club meeting, your part-time job, community service project, or family dinner table, how do you show up? Do you show up reluctantly, arms figuratively or literally folded, anticipating everything that could be unenjoyable, regrettable, or otherwise negative about the experience? Or do you show up enthusiastically, expecting the […]

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Seniors, are you honoring your application promises?

A college application is a series of promises. At the most basic level, it’s a promise that the information you’ve shared is accurate and complete. But you’re also promising to keep being the person you’ve presented. Here are four promises you’re making within your application, along with (where appropriate) some recommendations about actions to take if it […]

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Got questions about overparenting?

If you’ve got questions for—or just want to learn from the wisdom of—Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success, she’ll be featured on a live Q & A webinar on Tuesday, February 19, at 8:30 p.m. EST. All the details are […]

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