Make them great, too

Author Simon Sinek’s recent blog post argues that a great way to find more fulfillment, meaning, and satisfaction in your career (and I would argue in your extracurricular activities) is to help others find the same.

“If you want to get a better job, first and foremost, take charge of your own lot. If you wish to feel more engaged, fulfilled and happy at work, make it your obsession to help the people around you find more engagement, fulfillment and happiness in their jobs. Create it. Not simply for you. Create it for the people around you.”

At first glance, that might seem like a nice sentiment that doesn’t necessarily translate into career success. But there’s a growing body of writing and research that argues just how vital helping others is in pursuit of your own success, some of the most convincing of which comes from University of Pennsylvania’s Adam Grant’s book Give and Take, which I discussed in a past post.

And this approach aligns nicely with Stanford’s Jim Collins’s recommendation that while you can’t necessarily change an entire company (or school, or club, or organization), you can create a pocket of greatness by focusing relentlessly on your particular area.

Collins isn’t arguing that you should selfishly focus on your own interests alone. He’s lobbying that you take responsibility for what you can make great. And if you work with other people, you can make them great, too.

Will you stay for the story?

Startups get a lot of attention in the press. The vision, the big ideas, the risk—it makes for good headlines and memorable stories. But a startup isn’t a business. It’s the start of a business. And starting a business isn’t nearly as difficult as executing your idea, keeping your promises, and staying in business.

Activities in college admissions work the same way.

Many students want to highlight the startup-style headline on their college applications. They proudly list that they “started a club,” “founded a non-profit,” “or “launched a fundraiser.” But colleges know to look for evidence of the story that follows the start. If your club only held one meeting, if your non-profit exists in the paperwork alone, if the fundraiser never actually raised funds, your startup story doesn’t have the same impact.

I’m not discounting the value of initiative (I’ve written about its importance before). And I’m not suggesting that colleges will only appreciate what you start based on how you finish. In fact, there’s a lot you can learn from trying your best to execute something that didn’t work. But even learning that lesson will require that you do more than just start.

So yes, if you’ve got an idea, if you see a need you can fill, if you’ve got the gumption to take the lead and the risk, then start, found, launch, etc.

But if your only motivation is to list the start on your college application, you might consider redirecting your time and attention to something where you’d be excited to stay for the story.

How engaged are you?

After 30 years with over 30 million employees, The Gallup Organization has found that a highly engaged workforce is the difference between a company that outperforms its competitors and one that fails to grow. And their descriptions of the different levels of engagement may help students identify just how engaged they are in their chosen activities.

Gallup breaks employees into three different categories of engagement:

1. Engaged.
These are the passionate people who care deeply about the success of their organization. The mission and goals speak to their values. They work hard because the work and the organization matter to them.

2. Disengaged
The disengaged are checked out. They show up to work and do what they have to do so they won’t get fired. But they don’t feel connected to the company or the work. They’re not bringing energy or new ideas. And they have no interest in putting forth any extra effort beyond the minimum.

3. Actively Disengaged
These folks are just plain unhappy at work. And they act out on that unhappiness. They don’t just decline to contribute anything. They work against the organization by undermining what their boss and their coworkers are trying to get done.

Look at how you’re choosing to spend your time outside of school. Are you excited by what you do? Does it matter to you? Do you work hard because you love the work, the people, and the purpose? Do you light up when you talk about it?

Or are you just going through the motions? Even worse, are you making negative contributions?

The students who fit the definition of “engaged” with their activities are the ones who show the most passion, who make the biggest impact, and who stand out to colleges.

If you don’t fit that definition, try a new approach. Or try a new activity.

Accomplished [X] as measured by [Y] by doing [Z]

Laszlo Bock is a former SVP of People Operations and Senior Advisor at Google, and the author of Work Rules!: Insights from Inside Google That Will Transform How You Live and Lead. His LinkedIn piece shares his personal formula for crafting a winning resume.

Accomplished [X] as measured by [Y] by doing [Z]

The formula could be applied to crafting winning college applications. But I think it also could help students evaluate just how much of an impact they’re making in and out of the classroom. You don’t have to be the president, MVP, or first chair to make valuable contributions. Even the role player in the club, the recipient of the Coach’s Award for effort rather than playing time, or the consummate good natured oboe player who isn’t the best musician can still be vital to the spirit and success of their respective groups. If you consider how your participation fits into the formula (which pairs well with my advice here on how to measure impact), you’ll contribute more to—and get more from—your chosen activities.

Suggested 2017 activity adjustments

One of the most prevalent symptoms of college admissions mania is overscheduling. Too many kids just have too much to do. And while you can’t decide to stop going to school, and you probably shouldn’t decide to stop studying, it’s possible that some of your activities just aren’t adding much to your life. And if they aren’t adding value for you, they won’t bring value to your college applications.

As you begin 2017, I’d encourage every student, especially those freshmen, sophomores, and juniors who may still be exploring and identifying which activities mean the most to them, to evaluate how you are choosing to spend your time and to consider doing less.

I’ve written extensively about the dangers of overscheduling, and the potential value of quitting. So for those who are new or who weren’t readers when these posts went up on the blog, here are a few suggested reads to get you up to speed.

First, a past post on how to evaluate your activities.

Here’s one that illustrates the college admissions risk of overscheduling, and another to help you identify if you’re too busy being busy.

Here are two posts, here and here, on the potential value of quitting, and a third that encourages you to make sure that the benefits of quitting for you don’t become punishments for other people.

Chosen and done right, your extracurricular activities should be among the most enjoyable parts of high school. But getting there can sometimes mean making adjustments. You don’t always know whether or not an activity will make you happy when you start it. So use this fresh start of 2017 to take a look at what you’re doing and decide if you might benefit from making different—or fewer—choices about what to do.

Five benefits of holiday jobs

The holidays offer a great opportunity that many high school students overlook—the chance to work a part-time job. Many local businesses, especially stores and retail outlets, will hire seasonal part-time or even full-time workers to help out during the busy holiday season. Beyond the obvious benefits of earning extra money (a nice bonus if you’ve got gifts to buy), here are five advantages for high school students who get a job.

1. You’ll get work—and life—experience.
In addition to the work experience to put on a resume (a big advantage for a 16- or 17-year-old, especially one who’s never held a job), there’s something to be said for experiencing another part of the world outside of high school, especially one that doesn’t involve the expense of a formal program or extended travel. If you work for two weeks at the mall, a warehouse for an electronics dealer, or the local Christmas tree lot, you’re going to learn and experience things that you can’t find in your day-to-day high school life. And believe it or not, most college admissions officers would much rather read an essay about how you learned to successfully get Christmas tree sap off your hands than one about how traveling to France “broadened your cultural horizons.”

2. You’ll gain confidence.
I don’t care where you work or what you do—if you work hard and do a good job, you’ll earn some confidence along with that paycheck. I’ve worked with many students who talked about how working the drive-through window, answering the phone, or working a cash register actually helped them become less shy. And even reasonably outgoing students become even more so when they take that skill and bring it to work with them. The ability to introduce yourself to someone you don’t know, to look someone in the eye, to stay calm and composed under pressure—all of these are examples of confidence that can be learned or improved in the workplace.

3. You’ll learn to sell.
Yes, one type of selling is interacting with customers who are considering buying this toy, blouse, phone, etc. But when you make an unhappy customer feel better, you just sold them on a new perspective. When you share a new idea with your boss that she agrees with, you just sold her on your suggestion. When you win over your co-workers and work hard enough to earn their respect, you just sold them on your worth as a new member of the team. If you can get good at selling—in all its forms—you’ll have plenty of jobs and other exciting opportunities waiting for you in the future.

4. You’ll work with people who are different from you.
You can certainly learn how to work with people in your high school clubs and organizations, but almost all of those people are fellow high school kids. My first job at age 16 was washing cars at a limousine company. I worked for a boss who was openly gay (that was notable in my town in 1989), with a co-worker who spoke only Spanish, and with several drivers who brought real life worries to work about paying their bills and feeding their families. These weren’t experiences I was getting while sitting in class all day and playing soccer in the afternoon. Plenty of high school students I’ve met talk about wanting to break free of their high school bubbles and experience something different when they go to college. But you don’t have to wait, and you don’t have to travel, to do it. Scoop ice cream, take tickets at the movie theater, or process inventory in a stockroom, and you’ll meet, work with, and learn from people that you wouldn’t have the opportunity to do so otherwise.

5. You’ll learn more about how to be successful outside of high school.
The world doesn’t look or work like high school. Everything isn’t measured by a grade. You don’t know what’s going to be on the test because the test is happening all the time. And often, there’s not even a right answer. If you want to be successful, no matter what field you hope to enter one day, you’ve got to work hard, figure out what’s valued, solve interesting problems, lead people, add value, prove your worth, and make yourself indispensable. I don’t care how good or bad your GPA and your test scores are, they don’t measure everything. And the working world offers a treasure trove of lessons that you can’t get in any AP class.

Passion projects

My mother-in-law’s 70th birthday party this year was an outdoor affair that featured a jazz quartet. All four musicians were high school students from two different schools. They’d found each other when two members posted an ad online looking for high school musicians interested in playing gigs and earning extra money. They were fantastic. And they looked like there was no place they’d rather be on a Friday night than playing their favorite jazz tunes to a crowd whose average age hovered around 60.

That small quartet encapsulated a lot of what colleges want to see from students, and what it takes to be successful.

Initiative: two students had an idea and did the work to make it happen.

Passion: they obviously love to play jazz.

Responsibility: they routinely make and keep their promises to each other and to the people who hire them.

Impact: they’re great musicians, and the party would not have been the same without them there. And I’m sure they make the same impact wherever they’re invited to play.

Individuality: I know a lot of students who play in high school jazz bands (these four girls play in theirs, too). But not many have taken that interest and channeled it into an entrepreneurial part-time job.

Likeability: they were likeable in person, and by demonstrating the traits above, they’ll be likeable on paper during the college admissions process.

I would be shocked if I learned that they were doing any of this just to put it on their college applications. But if I were their college counselor, I’d make sure they featured this passion project prominently.

Lighting you up or burning you out?

Arguably the greatest hockey player who ever lived, Wayne Gretzky, believes that one of the worst things to happen to the game has been year-round hockey [for young athletes]. As described in this NPR story, To Get A College Scholarship: Forget The Field, Hit The Books, many high school athletes now play their sports year-round, with clubs, select teams, traveling teams, etc. in the hopes of winning a college scholarship. But only 2% of high school students earn athletic scholarships.

I wouldn’t suggest that any athlete abandon his or her dream based on one news story like this. But the athletes who ultimately earn the scholarships aren’t just among the best in their respective sports; they’re also those who love the game, who willingly participate year-round because they can’t imagine spending their time any other way. Their sports light them up without burning them out.

The best reason to participate in a sport—or any extracurricular activity—is because you actually enjoy it. High school kids are increasingly overworked and overscheduled, and sports should be something to look forward to, not something to plod through as yet another obligation. A college coach doesn’t want to offer a scholarship to a burned out player who’s just hoping for an admissions payoff. They want the athlete who will bring his or her love for the game with them, and continue that commitment once they get to college.

There’s nothing wrong with playing a sport year-round if it makes you happy. But the pursuit of a college scholarship isn’t worth dogmatically pursuing a sport that has stopped lighting you up and started burning you out.

The care formula

We’re always preaching to our Collegewise families that there is no magic list of activities that look good to colleges. The student who seeks leadership positions or completes community service hours driven only by the desire to “look good to colleges” just isn’t as compelling of an applicant as those who threw themselves into—and made an impact doing—things they really enjoyed.

Collegewise counselor Nandita Gupta read 8,000 applications as an admissions officer at Stanford. During our recent webinar on highly selective college admissions, she shared this observation about why it’s so important to choose activities because you love doing them, not because you hope they will get you into college.

“If you don’t care about it, there’s no way an admissions officer will care about it. The students that we, as admissions officers, care the most about are the ones who care the most about what they’re doing.”

Whenever you start to wonder if you’re doing activities that will help you get into college, go back and read that quote. Ask yourself how much you care about what you’re doing. And if you don’t like the answer, find things you care more about. You’ll be a happier, and more successful, college applicant.

Leave bigger shoes to fill

Many high school students began this year in leadership positions—editor of the yearbook, president of the student body, captain of the football team, etc. You should be proud that you earned the trust and respect of those who put you in charge. But it’s also important to remember that getting the position is just half of your leadership story that colleges will want to know about. The other half will be what you do in that role.

If your version of leading is to hold meetings and do the same things in the same ways that the leader before you did them, that’s not a compelling story. Leaders see potential and help others see it, too. At the end of your tenure, you and your members should be able to look back proudly and fondly at what you accomplished together. And that should challenge the next leader to do the same.

If you’re committed to leaning into your leadership role, here are a few questions to consider. Think about them, and pose them to those you work with if you’d like.

1. Who are your customers?
Every organization serves someone. The student government exists to serve their fellow students. The Gay/Straight Alliance exists to serve LGBT students and their allies. And plenty of organizations exist to serve their own members in part or in full, like the baseball team, the Improv Club, or the Math Team. But your organization needs to know who it’s serving, and your leadership needs to be clear about it. Then you can chart your path and make decisions from the frame of “How will this be good for those we serve?”

2. What would a successful stint look like?
People like to work together towards a common vision of success. The leadership team needs to paint that picture. If your group did a fantastic job this year, what would that look like? How would you measure it? Number of wins? Total funds raised? Members recruited? Initiatives successfully completed? If you think this doesn’t apply to your group, then ask the reverse question—what would a terrible year look like? If you run the DJ Club and can’t picture what success looks like, it’s pretty easy to figure out what failure looks like—unhappy members, people quit, the club needs to disband, etc. Then get to work defining the opposite of that vision—happy members, more people attending meetings, a flourishing club that’s established and appreciated on campus, etc.

3. What will you do today?
Vivid portrayals of future success are inspiring, but they can also be fleeting. If you don’t make immediate progress, the inspiration fades. The vision becomes all talk. And the goals start to seem unreachable. So once your group agrees on what you want to accomplish tomorrow, decide what you’re going to do today to start marching toward that goal. Maybe you need to recruit more members, or start pre-season conditioning workouts, or focus your rehearsal efforts to prepare for the upcoming school talent show. Today’s actions lead to tomorrow’s goals. And the lift you’ll get from those mini accomplishments along the way will keep you and your organization striving.

Your goal as a leader? Help others see the potential for things to be better, happier, more fun, safer, etc. for those you serve. Channel that enthusiasm into actions you can take today. If you do it right, not everything you try will work (that’s an inherent risk of trying new things). But you’ll almost certainly leave bigger shoes to fill at the end of your leadership stint.

For more on leading, managing, and why the two are not the same, check out Marcus Buckingham’s book, The One Thing You Need to Know.