When you arrive at school, at your club meeting, your part-time job, community service project, or family dinner table, how do you show up?
Do you show up reluctantly, arms figuratively or literally folded, anticipating everything that could be unenjoyable, regrettable, or otherwise negative about the experience?
Or do you show up enthusiastically, expecting the best, eagerly waiting for what’s possible rather than problematic?
That posture is a choice. That choice predisposes you to look for evidence of what you expected. And we tend to get what we look for.
If you feel like things just aren’t going your way, if you’re in that camp of seeing all the advantages that other people are getting, leaving you somehow missing out, you might turn things around just by showing up a little differently.