“We need to get him more community service hours…”
“We have to bring that biology grade up…”
“We are going to apply early decision…”
“We need to talk with his teacher about getting extra credit…”
“We are working on his applications…”
“We need a great college essay…”
“We need to prepare for his Princeton interview…”
"We" can be a harmful pronoun during the college admissions process. It's often a symptom of parents who are hijacking the process from their kids. I'm not saying parents shouldn't be involved at all. But remember who's actually applying to college. Parents can and should be supportive voices of reason. You should be encouraging your student and offering advice. But you shouldn't be doing things for your college-bound students that they can do for themselves. Switch your "We" to "He" or "She."