I was meeting with a Collegewise family once when the student revealed that his now bald father had an afro back in college.
The dad held his hands six inches from his head and said, "It was out to here."
As the student sat there giggling, I told the father how hard that was for me to imagine. And he had the perfect reply with an exaggerated, relaxed college tone.
"Hey, it was the seventies, man."
Every respectable adult I’ve ever met who’s been to college has a story to tell, a story from a time when they weren’t always so smart, perfect and grown up. That’s part of college. Kids get to make their mistakes and be who they are (afros and all) with impunity, knowing that as long as they manage to learn something in their classes along the way, they’re pretty much going to be OK.
Parents, when you feel the stress of your kids' college process getting to you, think back to your college days and what you were like back then, how you spent your time, and what path you took to become the responsible adult that you are today. I'm hoping if you do this, it will remind you that you have good kids who will enjoy the opportunity to create their own stories at whatever colleges are lucky enough to get them.