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Advice for University of Washington Hopefuls

While grades and test scores are important, the University of Washington makes it clear to applicants that UW wants to get to know you and what you can contribute to their campus.  Here are a few of the tips we give to our Collegewise students that can help you make the most of that opportunity.

1.  Spend the time to show UW you are more than just your numbers.

The UW application has two required essays, an optional third essay, and an activities log.  Successful applicants see this not as a burden, but an opportunity to show sides of themselves that grades and test scores can’t convey.   So set aside enough time to reflect on and write the stories you want to share.  The time and attention you give to their application will be an indication of just how interested you really are in UW, so make sure you’re proud of what your application says about you.

2. Before you write the essays, read all the directions, including the tips.
We know that “Read the directions” isn’t exactly groundbreaking advice.   But the essay section of the UW application includes not only the essay prompts, but also tips to help you choose appropriate stories.  Don’t ignore these!  The admissions office is coming right out and telling you what they’re interested in learning more about.  You’re getting guidance from the officers themselves.  So listen to their advice.  Before you dive in and start writing, take the time to read and think about the prompts and the accompanying tips.

3. When writing the short essay, the key is to think about your appreciation of differences. 

The short-answer questions about how you’ll contribute to the campus diversity, or to relate a personal experience with cultural differences, are really asking you to think more about UW’s diverse environment.  The UW student body comes from all different backgrounds, experiences and viewpoints.  Students who are happiest at UW enroll hoping to meet and learn from people who are different from them.  They look for ways to share their own backgrounds and viewpoints with other members of the campus community.  Are you excited to do those things?  What life experiences have you had that make you want UW’s diverse environment for your college experience?  What could you contribute to, and learn from, your fellow UW students?   Express your appreciation for those potential opportunities in your short-answer responses.

4. Make the most of your activity summary paragraphs.

UW invites you to write “a substantial paragraph” about up to five of your most significant activities.  This is a huge opportunity for you to share insight into the activity that you could never reveal in a simple resume.  For example, one of our former Collegewise students who went on to be a Husky wrote about how she was painfully shy until she got a job at the drive-through window at a fast food restaurant, and that taking customers’ orders actually made her a much more outgoing, sociable person.  That never would have been evident to an admissions officer had she just listed the basic facts about her job.  Share more.  UW wants to know!

5.  Share legitimate hardship, but don’t create it.

Buying into a misguided notion that hardship equals some sort of admissions advantage, many students manufacture hardship when applying to a college, taking a circumstance that might not have been so challenging, but presenting it as if it were.  This is always a mistake.  If you’ve experienced a hardship or other life challenge that has impacted your education, UW wants to know about it—they’ll consider your application in light of your circumstances.  But if you’re manufacturing hardship, UW will probably know it.  It’s not worth the risk.  Share another part of your life that will likely be much more interesting and effective.

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Start spreadin’ the NYU (tips)

If you can make it there…well, you know the saying about New York City.  If you're hoping to call the Big Apple home and attend NYU (New York University) during your college years, here are a few tips to help you get there.

1.  Be sure to read the "Application Do's and Don'ts Guide" on the NYU admissions website. 

This might seem like an obvious thing to do, but a lot of applicants ignore this kind of available advice from the admissions officers themselves (and that's a bad idea).  Read the guide carefully.  The admissions committee is being very clear about what they want and don't want you to do.  Pay particular attention to this:

"Read and follow instructions. Please don't decide that you have a 'better' way. We wouldn't ask you to do something in a certain way unless it was important that you do it that way." 

If only every college were so direct.  

2.  Pay close attention to the testing requirements.

NYU's testing requirements are unlike those at most colleges.  You can submit the SAT or ACT, or specific combinations of SAT Subject Tests, or specific AP exam scores.  This can really allow a student to put her best testing foot forward.  So make sure you review the options carefully on the NYU website, and select the test option that puts you in the best testing light.

3. Consider that a desire to be "in the city" is more of a pre-requisite than it is a reason to apply.

In their essays to NYU, a lot of students write about a desire to go to college in New York City.  But a desire to be in New York should pretty much be a given if you do in fact want to go to college at NYU.   We're mentioning this here because NYU, like all selective colleges, is looking for evidence of a thoughtful college search and a potential match with their student community.  So don't just decide that New York seems exciting and stop there.  Really think about why life as a college student in NYC would really enhance your college experience, and what you would do to make the most of that opportunity.

4. Make the most of the personal statement essays.

NYU's Common Application supplement has four required essays.  Well, it's actually three required essays and one "haiku, limerick or short poem that best describes you."  Successful applicants won't lament the requirement to write so many essays, and they won't hide behind answers that are contrived to impress.  They'll have fun writing the haiku, imagining the movie being made in 2050 about their life and selecting a famous New Yorker to spend a day with.  They'll use those opportunities to reveal their personalities.  They'll be honest enough to show that they're just the type of self-aware, introspective, sometimes wry, sometimes sassy, sometimes self deprecating students that seem to choose (and thrive at) NYU.   

Here are some prompt-specific tips:

If you had the opportunity to spend one day in New York City with a famous New Yorker, who would it be and what would you do? (Your New Yorker can be anyone -past or present, fictional or nonfictional – who is commonly associated with New York City; they do not necessarily have to have been born and raised in New York.)

This is one of those prompts that can expose kids who haven’t given serious consideration to the school.  If you’ve really thought about what it would be like to live in New York City, you’ll have some idea about how you want to spend your days, and you probably have paid attention to who some famous New Yorkers are.  You've thought about the city and what you'd like to do there.  So this opportunity to spend a day with a famous New Yorker would probably be an exciting one.  

As with all essay questions, this should be about you, not about New York or the famous person.  The answer should reveal something about yourself and your personality.

For example, the Beatles fanatic could talk about John Lennon (who specifically left England to live in New York City) and what a fantastic day it could be just visiting local guitar shops, hanging out in The Village drinking coffee and talking music with him, how you could finally ask him the truth about the lyric in Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds and find out whether or not he and Paul still liked each other. 

That answer reveals something about the writer.  It doesn’t just regurgitate information about New York City that the reader already knows.

In the year 2050, a movie is being made of your life. Please tell us the name of your movie and briefly summarize the story line.

This question and the limerick one after it are good examples of essay questions reflecting the personality of the school and the student body.  Students at NYU would have fun with a question like this if you posed it to them, even if they weren’t studying anything to do with film.  It’s just that kind of environment where people enjoy creativity and self-expression.  So NYU asks it in part to help identify students who embrace that culture. 

It doesn’t matter what the title or the story line is as long as you inject your own personality into it and help the reader get to know something about you.

Write a haiku, limerick, or short (eight lines or less) poem that best represents you.

Again, true NYU-ers will have a field day with this.  They won’t get frustrated with having to write “some stupid poem.”  They’ll want to do it.  They’ll wish that other college applications allowed them to do it.  It’s those students who are mostly likely to accept an offer of admission from NYU, and who are most likely to thrive once they get there. 

So let loose with this one.  Don’t plod along trying to create something impressive.  Be playful, serious, introspective—whatever you think represents you.    

Please tell us what led you to select your anticipated academic program and/or NYU school/college, and what interests you most about your intended discipline.

In spite of the fact that college is first and foremost, well, school, a lot of students give surprisingly little thought to questions like this.  NYU wants to know that you're not just looking forward to Central Park in fall and all that great New York pizza, but that you're also excited about the academic journey you're about to take. 

You've only got 500 characters (about one paragraph) to work with here.  So you're going to need to make your points clearly and forcefully.  And you'll need to do so in a way that focuses on you more than it does NYU.  That's how you distinguish yourself in a question like this, by writing something nobody else could write.

For example, any potential business major could write,

"Business has always interested me.  I find the combination of so many elements, from marketing to accounting to sales, fascinating.  NYU has an excellent reputation, and New York City will also provide me many opportunities to find internships where I can gain valuable experience." 

First of all, what teenager that you know talks like that?  Secondly, he just wrote the same essay that a lot of other NYU business major hopefuls will write.  And worst of all, he just told the admissions committee things about NYU that they already know.

Let them hear your academic excitement.  Show NYU that you've given appropriate thought to the major you’ve selected and why you want to pursue it.  What if this applicant above turned it around and said,

“I learned something working at my dad’s mortgage company–business isn't always fun.  I saw how much my dad worried especially as the economy started to go south.  It wasn't easy for him.  But I also saw how engaged he was in his work.  He loves what he does because it's hard, not in spite of it.  I'm a lot like my father.  I’m applying as a business major not because it seems fun, but because I want to get up in the morning and feel just as excited to go to class as I did to go to my job.”

Now we’ve gotten to know something about him, something we wouldn’t have known from the rest of his application.  And there’s an energy there, something that makes us believe he’s not just checking the “business” box because he doesn’t know what else to check. 

It takes a certain kind of student to get in, to attend, and to ultimately succeed at NYU.  And their application is designed to give you the opportunity to show that you’re one of them.  The best matched NYU students are independent, thoughtful and expressive.  They would never try to hide those qualities.  So bring them out here in your essay responses, and never hide behind language where you’re just trying to impress.

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Looking for a long-term relationship with the University of Puget Sound?

Going to college is a lot like getting married. 

Stay with me–I'm going somewhere with this.

The University of Puget Sound only asks for three short responses in their supplement to the Common Application.  But there's a lot going on in those three short responses, which means that if you make the most of the opportunity they're giving you, you can tell them a lot about yourself, about your interest in the school, and about your likelihood of attending (the aforementioned marital analogy will come into play later).

Here are UPS's supplemental essay questions with some Collegewise tips.

1. What are three words you would use to most aptly describe yourself?

We'll put it this way.  Here are three sample responses from three totally made up applicants.  Which one would you like to have as your roommate?

    A. Diligent, determined, trustworthy

    B. Musical, clumsy, lovable

    C. Honorable, tenacious, dedicated

Most readers would pick applicant B because there's a spark of personality there.  She didn't shy away from telling the truth.  I learned more about her from those three words than I did from the words the other two chose.  Plus, she’s just likeable (and to accomplish that in only three words isn't easy).

Don't over think this question.  There really are no right or wrong answers (although I'd shy away from "cranky" "aggressive," and "dangerous").  If you hide behind words you hope will make you sound impressive, you'll miss out on the chance to be likeable.  Pick words that really do describe you and have fun with it.   

2.  How did you first learn about Puget Sound?

Imagine you asked your boyfriend or girlfriend to recall the first time you met.  What's the difference between these two responses?

"One of our friends introduced us at a party, I think.  I'm pretty sure it was sophomore year."

Or…

"We were in AP Chemistry together and were paired up to do a lab project during the second week of school.  I remember how stupid I felt wearing the apron and goggles and you kept making me laugh by telling me I was probably feeling awkward because you looked so fantastic in your chic lab attire.  I knew I liked you then." 

Note to the guys reading this–there really is a difference between those two.

Colleges feel the same way when they ask you how you first learned about them.  They want to see that there's already some history to this potential relationship.  So don't just write, "My high school counselor told me about UPS and it seemed very interesting."  Tell them the whole story.  What were you and your counselor discussing?  What did you think, at the time, was the right college for you?  Why did she bring up UPS?  What did she say to you about it? 

Be as specific as you can be in this answer and you'll show UPS that you recall vividly the first day you met.

3.  In 300 words or less, please discuss why you are interested in attending Puget Sound.

Here's your opportunity to show that you've really imagined you and UPS spending your college years together (that's the marital analogy right there, by the way).  Applying is non-committal.  It's like a first date.  Maybe it'll work out and maybe it won't.  But attending is a long-term commitment.  And colleges want to know which applicants have long-term relationship potential. 

As with all school's who ask this question about your desire to attend, it's important that your response not be all about them, but rather, all about you.   Don't just recite statistics about class sizes or rely on the old standby, "You have a beautiful campus" or the even more common, "It's a great school."  You're just telling them things about UPS that they already know.

If you're serious about attending UPS, give them the real reasons why you think you'd be happy there.  Why, specifically, will you be excited if an acceptance is offered to you? Tell them about an experience you've had that made you consider an academic program at UPS.  Or share something you've learned about yourself and your expectations for college that match with the UPS environment.  Or help them understand what you were thinking and feeling when you visited UPS and felt like you'd found your college. 

This is where you get to demonstrate that you're serious about a potential long-term relationship with the college.  So show them that you've imagined yourselves together.

We'll back off of the relationship analogies for now.  But sometimes, they're just too effective to pass up.

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Five Students Every College Loves

Different colleges look for different qualities in potential students.  But there are some characteristics that are appealing no matter where you apply, from Duke to Duquesne, Harvard to Haverford, Princeton to Purdue, Stanford to Samford, Vassar to…OK, you get the idea.  

1.  Students who raise their hands in class.
We really can’t emphasize enough how much of an advantage you will have if you just participate in class (at least, we can’t emphasize it enough without using all capital letters and bolder print).  The teacher will appreciate that you are engaged.  Your grade will likely be higher in the class.  And you’ll be much more likely to get a positive letter of recommendation from that teacher when you apply to college.  Colleges are looking for students who’ve shown they are ready and willing to take responsibility for their education.  Those are the students who will make the most of their time once they get to college.   

2.  Students who really love what they do outside of class.
Kids who have passion love what they do; they aren’t just going through the motions to please colleges.  You can hear it in the poet’s voice when she talks about how writing makes her feel, and from the future scientist who took college classes over the summer because he had to know more about physics.  You can sense it from the student who volunteers at the vet because she loves animals, from the artist who loves to paint on the weekends, and from the water polo player who rides the bench but still loves being on the team.   These passionate students are the ones who are most likely to make an impact on their campuses in college. 

3.  Students who work regular part-time jobs. 
There’s just something likeable about a kid who flips burgers, or washes cars, or finds outfits for screaming children at Baby Gap.  These—not a fancy sounding job at your dad's law firm—are regular jobs.  And kids who have them are always appealing to colleges.  We’re not suggesting that you should drop your current activities and run out to get a job if you don’t currently have one.  We’re mentioning it because too many students think you need to spend summers shearing sheep in Tibet or attending a pricey summer program to impress colleges.  You don’t.  Colleges would be just as impressed (maybe even a little more impressed) if you waited tables or stocked inventory at a clothing store down the street.

4.  Students who do thoughtful college searches.
Colleges want to admit students who have really thought about what they want their college experience to be like.  That’s why the most successful college applicants do a lot of college soul searching about what they hope and expect their college experiences will be like.  So start asking yourself what part of college academics you are most excited about.  In what kind of college environment do you think you would flourish socially and academically?   What are you hoping to gain from your college experience (in addition to a degree)?  You don't need answers to all of these questions right away.  But thinking about them will show the colleges that you are a mature college seeker. 

5.  Students who are comfortable just being themselves.
Individuality is something every college wants to see from an applicant.  They want students with different strengths, interests, beliefs, and backgrounds.  So don’t try to be something you’re not just to impress colleges.  If you’re terrible at sports but love math, don’t be ashamed of it—embrace it.  Take additional math classes outside of school.  Join the math club and become its fearless leader.  Openly admit that you have a relationship with math that borders on romantic.  Colleges know that if they put these different, interesting, motivated students together, they’re going to learn from each other.

A website with some merit

I learned about what looks to be a great resource for high school kids today, www.meritaid.com.  The vast majority of merit-based scholarships come from the colleges themselves (as opposed to outside scholarships that come from companies, organizations, private donors, etc.).  And this website seems to be culling that information together so that a student can search for schools and research the scholarships that are available.  You can even create a profile that will generate a list of colleges with potential merit aid that match your profile. 

I would still argue that visiting the schools' individual websites is the only way to be sure you know about all of the scholarships they offer, but you could use this site as a way to narrow down your search.

Thanks to Mary Beth Kravets, a high school counselor and author of this fantastic college guide for students with learning disabilities, for sharing this.   

The more things change…

At one of our Collegewise Back to School Nights last week, we were discussing how much pressure kids (and parents) are feeling surrounding the college admissions process today.  A father asked this question.

"When I was in high school, I only applied to two colleges, and got in to both of them.  What's changed?"

It's a good question.  Why are colleges so hard to get into now?  What's caused all this change?

On the one hand, a lot has changed.  There are more kids are applying to college today than ever before (we're just finishing the post-baby boom, with over 3 million kids graduating from high school this year).  And unfortunately, a lot of them want to go to the same 40 schools, schools whose capacity for students hasn't changed much, if at all.  So the applicant pool is growing, but the number of spots at the most selective colleges has remained the same.  It's the law of supply and demand at work, and that's very different from the college admissions landscape of 20-30 years ago. 

But at the same time, not a lot has changed.

A student can still take the SAT just once and accept whatever score he
gets.  He can still apply to just two colleges, get in to both of them,
and go to one.  And he can do all this without perfect grades, perfect
test scores, or a legal proof that he invented photosynthesis. 

But he just can't do that if the two schools are Georgetown and
Northwestern.  Or Amherst and Williams.  Or Berkeley and UCLA.  Or
Stanford and Yale.  Or Swarthmore and Tufts.  Or Columbia and Cornell.  Or Boston College and Notre Dame.  Or Duke and Michigan.  Or any of the other schools that reject 60-90% of their applicants.   

The competition for admission has changed dramatically at the nation's most selective
colleges.  But there are over 2,000 other colleges from which to choose
and all but about 100 of them accept almost all of their applicants.

It's up to you.  You can buy into the thinking that a more selective college means a better education and the promise of a successful life beyond college (we'll disagree, but you can believe it).  Or you can spend more time finding the right college for you where you'll be happy and successful, one who will gladly take a kid who doesn't necessarily have straight A's, where your potential to contribute is worth as much or more to them than your grades and test scores are. 

Not everything has changed since Mom and Dad applied to college.

Staying Productive and Motivated

Graduating college seniors are facing a tough job search in a down economy.  But that doesn't mean you can't do something noteworthy while you're looking.  This blog post has some great ideas for ways to stay motivated and make yourself even more marketable for potential employers.  I'm posting it here for college grads, but also for high school students who might be looking for ways to spend a productive and fulfilling summer (in fact, it's reminiscent of our list of "50 Fantastic Summer Activities for High School Students").

50 Fantastic Summer Activities for High School Students

The New York Times ran an article today about the National Young Leaders Conference–one of many organizations that offer high-priced summer programs for students, but that misleadingly market the programs as auspicious honors for which only a few outstanding students are selected.  It's a good reminder to be suspicious of any "honor" for which you have to pay (a lot) to receive.

You don't have to spend money on an expensive program to impress colleges.   Here are 50 fantastic summer activities you can do for free or almost free.  All of these are positive, productive and interesting to potential colleges.  Pick the one(s) you feel you could really get excited about, get going, and have fun. 

50 Ways to Spend Your Summer

  1. Take an interesting class at your local community college.
  2. Get a part-time job at the mall. 
  3. See how many books you can read this summer.  
  4. Work in your family's business.  Consider doing so for free.
  5. Think of ten people–teachers, coaches, family members, relatives–who deserve your thanks.  Write them a hand-written letter of at least one page expressing your appreciation and detailing how they've impacted you.  Tell them what you're going to do to make them proud and spend the summer doing it.
  6. Take saxophone lessons.  
  7. Coach little league.  Or basketball.  Or soccer.
  8. Work at a summer camp.  
  9. Volunteer at the local mobile health clinic, or the animal shelter, or the public library.  
  10. Tutor kids.  
  11. Start a business with your friends.   
  12. Set a goal that you are 99% certain you won't be able to achieve this summer.  Then go all out and try to achieve it as though your life depended on it.  You'll either get there or get much, much closer than you were at the beginning of the summer. 
  13. Learn how to write computer programs.  
  14. Read to the blind.  
  15. Teach something.  
  16. Learn to paint.  
  17. Pick something that really interests you and see how far you can go with it.  
  18. Take classes to become an emergency medical technician.  
  19. Learn sign language.   
  20. Pick a cause in your community that you care about.  Find groups who care about it, too.  Organize people. 
  21. Offer to intern for free someplace where the work seems interesting, like the city councilman's office, or an advertising agency, or the local newspaper.  
  22. Play guitar at coffee shops and see how much money you can make this summer. 
  23. Learn CPR. 
  24. Cook dinner for your family once a week.  Each time, learn a new dish that you prepare.  Write your recipes down and make your own family cookbook. 
  25. Volunteer to lead tours of local state parks.   
  26. Buy a college guidebook and learn as much as you can about 20 colleges you know nothing about today.  
  27. Raise money for someone or something that needs it. 
  28. Learn something that is pure fun, like bongos or hip hop dance or how to make your own purses (check out your local community colleges' "community education" programs). 
  29. Pick something you love and figure out how to use it to make contributions to others, like playing piano in a jazz band, teaching residents at a retirement home how to use a computer, or helping run the lights for a play at the community theater.  
  30. Work full time and give all the money to a charity of your choice at the end of the summer.  
  31. Pick a subject that fascinates you and challenge yourself to learn as much as possible about it. 
  32. Learn karate. 
  33. Teach karate. 
  34. Join a book club. 
  35. Organize a book club. 
  36. Go to your school principal and ask what you could do, for free, to improve the school.  You could paint a classroom, clean lockers, or refurbish the lunch benches.  Better yet, enlist five friends to do it with you.  Don't just tell colleges you want to make an impact.  Make one.  
  37. Set a goal to learn as many new things as possible this summer–facts, skills, concepts, etc.  Write a blog detailing what you've learned so you can share it with cyberspace. 
  38. Build an iphone app. 
  39. Master one subject or skill you currently don't know anything about. 
  40. Hold informal soccer conditioning workouts, or barbecues for the new student council members so you can get to know each other better, or meetings at Starbucks with your co-editors to brainstorm story ideas for the paper this fall.  Show colleges you can organize people and lead them.    
  41. Have a neighborhood bake sale for the French Club in which all sales are conducted in French.  
  42. Get a group of kids from the drama club together and enroll in an improv class. 
  43. Pick a classic author and read all of his or her works. Find out what all the fuss is about Twain or Hemingway or Plath or Dickinson. 
  44. Take the hardest college class you can find and enroll in it "not-for-credit" so you can challenge yourself with impunity. 
  45. Visit as many colleges as you can in a 30 mile radius of your house.  Take your friends with you.  Write your own reviews of each school and share them with people. 
  46. Learn to cut and style hair.  You'll be a savior during prom season. 
  47. Vow not to watch any TV this summer.  Not one single second.  Pick something cool and fun and productive to do instead.    
  48. Find a class offered at a local college that looks fascinating.  Email the professor and ask if you can sit in on a session or two just to experience what the class is like.  
  49. Train to run a 10k, or a half-marathon, or a marathon, or to do a triathlon.  And get your friends to join and train with you.  Consider raising money with your efforts and donating to a worthy cause. 
  50. Pick the five most enticing things on this list and do them.  At the end of the summer, email me at kevinm (at) collegewise.com and tell me about your experiences.  I'd love to hear from you, and if you give me permission, I'll share your story here on our blog.

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5 Tips for High School Academic Success

Report_card_2 You don’t need to read our blog to know that getting good grades will help you get into college.  But here are five tips you might not have thought of, tips that anyone from “A” students to “C” students can use to be more successful in high school. 

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1.  Get to know your high school counselor (and when you do, be nice).

Your high school counselor is not only a resource for you, but can also be your advocate with teachers and colleges.  So before you pick your classes, meet with your counselor.  If you have a question about college, ask your counselor.  And if you happen to have an extra batch of fresh-baked cookies lying around, bring some to your counselor.  We’re not saying you should schmooze with insincerity; we’re saying that you should acknowledge, appreciate and benefit from your counselor’s willingness to help you. 

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